After reading Alia's post where she wants to bring back real capital punishment for rapists and the like, my thoughts floated to a conversation I had with my Emirati friend a couple of years ago while I was at university doing my undergraduate studies.She seemed a little sad one day.I enquired about it.She usually had minor issues like stress and family related since she was a mother of two young girls.She would talk to me about her day to day challenges and would feel bettter.We would then head off for a steaming plate of Fettucine Alfredo with hot red sauce and laugh off all the worries.
Imagine the look on my face when she told me her source of concern for that day.She told me her mother's brother was at her place.Since she had 2 little girls and was a full time student, she stayed at her mom's place during the week where her kids were taken care of in her absence.So anyway, her uncle came over.He was very distressed because his son was behind bars.The reason being he had raped a young girl.
I was shocked to simply put it.My expression showed it all.I have never known a rapist or come close to someone thanks God.This was the closest I got.One of my bestest friend's cousin was a rapist awaiting trial ....
This was just the beginning.The bigger shock had yet to come when my friend told me her uncle was unhappy and she was unhappy for her uncle and wished her cousin got back home free.I was shocked,angry and upset.I was shocked because I couldn't imagine my friend being a woman herself with two young daughters felt sympathetic towards a rapist.I was angry because I felt she was acting selfish.She didn't care about the girl, the victim.All she cared was about her uncle and the cousin.I was upset because I couldn't believe this was one of my best friends talking about rape like it happened everyday to every one and was no big deal.So anyway I totally flipped a lid and just went on and on about abuse and the physical and psychological effects on the girl and asked her to give a thought to the trauma she was going through.Finally, I asked her to imagine if something like that were to happen to her daughter.
Later, I felt sorry for her.She was confused.She didn't know how else to support her uncle.Her cousin was only 18 years old.She totally agreed with me on everything.She just felt it was unfair to her uncle.
My psychology professor used to say," Life isn't fair or unfair.Life just is."
Sexual abuse of any kind is a big deal and should be dealt likewise.I strongly support capital punishment.Besides being a severe punishment for perpetrators of sex crimes , it would be a lesson for other evil minded people to take heed and resist such temptations.I'm sure if they knew they'd be killed for it, they would not commit such criminal acts towards women and children.Of course, things are different thanks to our legal system.A crminal can easily get away with paying blood money or serving a sentence.
The story of 5 year old Moosa Mukhtiar Ahmed is so heart wrenching.My mom was so upset on reading half of the story, she couldn't finish reading.And to imagine something so monstrous taking place in the bathroom of the mosque.It was a sad, sad thing to happen and that too on eid.
Please remember the little boy's family in your prayers.I hope justice is served for the sake of our daughters and children around the world.
The link to Alia's post is http://chasing-jannah.blogspot.com/2009/12/bring-back-real-capital-punishment-in.html.
More details on the tragic death of the little boy can be read at the following links.
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